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When It’s Good to be INFLEXIBLE

Be inflexible!

Huh?

“Wait a hot minute, Tammy!  What are you talking about?  Aren’t you all about flexibility and balance????”

I am!  I’m flexible about many things…

  • food choices
  • working around obstacles
  • the “plan” to reach a goal

But not in all things.

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I am NOT flexible about…

  • reaching those goals
  • keeping my word
  • acting with integrity
  • embracing the grind

 
The ends do not justify the means if short cuts were used or if too many compromises were made.

This applies to many things in life besides fitness, but it is important to your health to use science-based best practices for nutrition.  

If the results aren’t sustainable, they aren’t really results.

(Humans are not supposed to always be on a diet.  The metabolism will adapt because it’s designed to do so.  How many times do people keep doing battle with the same 20 pounds just to get to the point where nothing works anymore?)

Short cuts are long-term self-sabotage.

And there are health concerns, too.  Some need to repair some damage from years of being busy, taking care of everything, everyone – expect themselves.

Most just want to feel better so that they can fully participate in life with loved ones.

For those of us who are a little older, it’s easier to accept that there isn’t time to try every diet that is out there anymore.

That’s when it’s important to be inflexible.  It needs to be done the right way this time.  We don’t want to waste time wondering if we’re doing it right.

Sticking to a plan?  Well, that’s a different beast, isn’t it?  That’s where the accountability and mindset work becomes critical.

I never did my work alone. I still don’t.  I rely on my coach to do some of the thinking for me and for accountability.

Are you ready?  

Are you ready to be inflexible about your own success??

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WHY Did I Keep Quitting?

DISCLAIMER: As much as I’d like to have a visit with you if you think I might be the right coach for you, this post isn’t about coaching. Even if you work with someone, they might just focus on the program and not get into a topic like this – even though it’s critical for long term success. This post is based on my personal journey since 2010. I don’t expect it to resonate with everyone, but it might help one person.

You’ve done it before.  You’ve started a program.  And…then you quit.

I started and quit many times.

And then something changed. 

You might know my story, but I’m digging a bit deeper in this post.

There are several things that contribute to “success”.  Let’s use a working definition of success in terms of a heath transformation as…

HEALTH TRANSFORMATION SUCCESS: Sticking with a program long enough to reach a goal and then having the tools to maintain it.

I didn’t have the THE mysterious thing that I needed to make a health transformation success happen before. Was it a piece of knowledge I was missing? Was it a character flaw? Was it a weakness in my personality??

And then *POOF* it all clicked. It made sense.

It wasn’t fear of dying early was on my mind this whole time, even though the doctors were quite clear about that risk. That was the catalyst for the real work I needed to do.

It was a mindset shift! I needed to figure out WHY I was OK with quitting repeatedly. That’s actually out of character for me.

I needed to be willing to be vulnerable, get my ego out of the way, and be brutally honest with myself as I looked for answers to questions I didn’t want to ask.

I did this to myself.  That’s obvious.  But WHY?????

The reflective work to find the “WHY do I keep quitting” was THE thing I needed to do.

Highly successful people have demonstrated motivation and determination in other areas of their lives.  But they will still sabotage their own self-care!  Right?  I did.  And then I used “lack of motivation” as an excuse.   Or blamed my screwed-up priorities. Those are easy to grab.

But they aren’t the reasons. They are the results of something else.

As a math teacher, I dealt with this daily. Apathetic teens were willing to give up the high school diploma instead of challenging their fixed mindset about how they couldn’t learn algebra and/or geometry. (And I suspect there is at least one adult reading this right now who probably had to power through that particular mindset, too!)

This health stuff and the math stuff are more closely related than most people think.

Be brave.  Ask yourself the hard questions…

  • WHY are you repeating this pattern?
  • Why don’t you think you deserve to fix this??

It doesn’t matter if you’re doing this alone or working with a trainer or coach.  If quitting feels like a better option than pushing through and figuring out WHY you want to quit, there is something underneath that is the driver for what you might think is a a lack of motivation or a weakness in your determination-muscle.

Even if you have a coach who is willing to engage in the work with you about these hard questions, if you’re not willing to dig in, the result will be the same.  The pattern will repeat.

My hard truth was that I didn’t believe I deserved to treat myself better. It felt like I hadn’t earned it.

My self-worth was based on what I did for others.  I was invisible unless I was reflected in another person’s opinion of me.  I wasn’t actually me.  I was some type of character in my own life based on my “roles” (wife, teacher, daughter, sister, etc). 

I’m NOT blaming anyone other than myself for how I felt.  No one expected me to become invisible – quite the contrary. 

People usually want the people they love to be happy and thriving.  But I wasn’t happy, wasn’t thriving, and nothing was going to change until I figured out why I didn’t care enough to change.

I’m not a psychologist, so I’m sure there is more under there to explore, but I needed to have the epiphany that I wasn’t properly caring for one of God’s kids…me.  I needed to step back and look at what was really going on.

And I needed to accept that my self-neglect, which I thought was honorable because I was putting others first, would actually harm them over time as I developed more serious health issues.

Sick, unhappy Tammy would not be a good partner for my husband and would not be a good teacher for my students.

After that, I approached everything like it was a problem at work.  What’s not working?  What will fix it?  Work. The. Problem.

The answer for me was to give up pretending I knew what I was doing, give up control, get help, and do what I was told.  Period.

I resigned to trust that process and be patient.

There have been a few changes on “Team Tammy” as people either needed to leave or I needed something different.  That’s OK and expected.  It’s part of the growth process.  If you take this route of working with a trainer or coach, your job is to find the right one to be on your team.

Refer to DISCLAIMER above! I am NOT the right coach for everybody. Not even going to pretend that’s the case. There are plenty of coaches and trainers out here doing this work online and in person. Do your research. Trust your gut!

My underlying resolve to keep all of this going for myself remains in tact because I was able to adopt a mindset that values self-care without making it seem like selfishness.

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Food-Tracking Hacks On the Go

Consistency over time is the REAL “secret” to making a health change.

However, I don’t think anyone has a life that is consistently free of unplanned craziness.

If you have a flexible approach to making things work, you have a better shot at reaching your goals.

Here are a couple of ideas for how to handle food prep on a day that is going to be crazy busy…

Hack: Log your food for the whole day the night before or first thing in the morning.

Once it’s all in your tracker, you’re more likely to be compliant with your program for that day.

You will be less likely to grab something unplanned because, in your mind, you already know you logged everything and you don’t want to open up the tracker to do the extra work to log that snack.

Or, if you do need to eat something unplanned, you only need to add that one thing, not the whole day.

Hack: Pack your food for the entire day and bring it with you.

After your food is logged, put all of it in one cooler. Meals, snacks – everything.

As your crazy, busy day unfolds, even if you’re at home, you know that your food for that day is in that one spot.

It is easier to be disciplined if you know that. It’s in this box, it’s logged – that’s my food for today.

The big idea here is to stop worrying about if you’re doing things the “right” way and get creative about how to make it work in YOUR life.

Doing it slightly less than “optimally” is still doing it!

Busy adults don’t have time to be perfect. Let that $h!t go. 😉

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