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2017 Prep Update: “How Did You Do?”

It has been three weeks since the last show of this competition season.  The last show was on Saturday, October 15th, and I was back into teacher mode on Monday morning.

Another HUGE life change is in the works, so I’ve taken time to reflect before I wrote this post.  I also wanted to wait until I got the “official” show photographer’s pictures so I could do comparisons from stage to stage.

First…

THANK YOU Colin DeWaay Training !!!

Your sponsorship for this last show made it possible!!   As you read through this, you’ve got to know it was the most amazing experience I’ve had in bodybuilding to date.  I believe that it was blessed from the start because of your generosity.

THANK YOU!! Alberto Nunez, The Patient

You are a Scary-Smart Program Writer and Peak-Week-Whisperer.  We did good.  I’m excited for 2019.

 

“So how did you do?” is the logical question, right?  And then I see the look of disappointment in their eyes when I tell them my placing -third out of 3 in Class B, my string of last place finishes in my class continues, but this was my best presentation to date and it is ok because that’s a fair placing. And then a look of dubious agreement as I explained that this sport is about personal progression, yada, yada, yada…

Honestly, it’s better than OK.  Something finally clicked after the July show when I got last place for bodybuilding in a line created by the promoter with me and three figure pros.

I spent two years mustering the courage to get back on that stage to be judged even after I was told I would never be competitive.  2017 was all about proving to myself that I’m capable of standing back up and taking hits.  Period.  It’s not about bodybuilding or how I look – it’s bigger than that.

Hindsight is 20/20, right?  My physical transformation was a side effect of the real work I’ve been doing.  I’ve used bodybuilding – the training, the disciplined nutrition, the stage experiences – to slowly learn to face fears that crippled me before.

The mental game I needed to change myself physically has built a growth mindset about everything else, too.  2015 knocked me on my ass and gave my inner self-doubt plenty of material to use against me.

But now I know 2015 wasn’t supposed to be a disappointment – it was the next lesson.  Had that not happened, I would not have done the research, the crying, the soul-searching I needed to break through some old-thinking to become a better teacher, to be a more supportive and encouraging wife, and do to get ready for the next big, scary life change I’ll tell you about at the end of this post.

Every time we face a fear and act anyway, we get stronger.

What you see here is only the physical transformation.  Too many people get too hung-up on this part.  What  you can’t see is the most important part.  It’s the grit.  I thought I had grit before – I had no idea.  No.  Idea.

Every obstacle gets steeper.  Every obstacle navigated makes us stronger.

As I write this, I’m thinking about a young woman walking into the gym, knowing she has to loose hundreds of pounds, feeling that people are going to judge her, but she shows up anyway.  Or the grit it takes to finish those damn burpees!

I’m telling you that it isn’t our obstacles that stop us – it’s what we think about our obstacles that stops us.

So I’ve learned that if there is something that needs to be done, something inspired, something big and scary, don’t think.  Just act. Now I have the confidence to know that I can figure out the details as I go.  I CAN make it work.

I went into the July 2017 show in my best physical condition to date, was the only “bodybuilder” who registered for that show with the intention of competing as a bodybuilder, and I still came away with a last place finish.   But that’s just their record keeping.

My personal victory was getting back up there and putting the ribbon and bow on the big “Not-One-Fuck-Is-Given-Present” I needed to deliver to the nay-sayers.  This.  Is.  My.  Sport.  I will continue to get up, dust off, suit-up and show-up.

Anyone who feels compelled to clue me in on why I’ll never be competitive as a bodybuilder, needs to (appropriately) direct those comments to a mirror.  I’d rather keep placing last than quit. 

(If it’s negative me talking to real-life me – well, shut up and get in the back seat.  You’re not driving.)

“Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about.” ~ Winston Churchill

I went into the October 2017 expecting to not place well because I knew I’d be in a line with athletes with more muscle, so the plan was to have as much fun as possible.  That show turned out to be the most enjoyable one to date!  It was an amazing experience!

 

My friend and teammate, Denise, did this show together, which was a first for me and made it memorable.  Her daughter did my makeup and that made it special, too.

Denise was in Class A and I was in Class B, but when they lined us up, we were next to each other.  We weren’t competing directly, so we just got to go out and have fun!  So awesome!!

I’ve been told by other competitors that it’s the camaraderie that hooks them and what they enjoy most about competing, but it wasn’t until this 5th show when I got to experience that first hand.

I was so tired after this show, I asked Hubby if we could just go home.  I showered off the top layer of tan, made myself a lovely grilled cheese sammich, had an adult-beverage, and hit the hay.  The next morning – our first visit ever to the Cheesecake Factory!!  Oh yeah.  That was pretty damn special.

It’s been a blessed competition season!  My friend Michelle flew out to support me in July and  Denise was next to me on stage in this last show.  And then a fabulous meal with my guy!!  It was a perfect way to end my two-year intense self-reflective period – a total celebration!!

I made a point to meet and get to know the other two women in our division before pre-judging.  We were all friends on Facebook by the time the night show rolled around.  We cheered for each other off stage during our individual routines.  We celebrated back stage afterwards by sharing a bag of caramel M & Ms (Thanks Michelle for introducing THAT awesomeness into my life!  Paying it foward…)

The three women  to my right have inspiring stories about how they got to this place and it was humbling to hear them talk about their challenges and blessings.  So yeah, I had fun, met some amazing women, and I think we will be friends for a long time.  And I placed last.  But this medal was not a generic, plastic trophy.  This one is special.  This is now my favorite last place ever!!!

So How DID I Do?  Really?

Ok – now the nitty gritty.  I was a couple pounds heavier in the October show than in the July show.  My peak week was different this time, too.  My coach, Alberto Nunez (3DMuscleJourney) doesn’t change things up, but for the October peak, my body wasn’t filling out.  I’d send video each morning and then he would increase my carbs each day – by a lot.  Doubled, usually.  Highest day approached 300 grams.

As a result, we both think I looked sharper in October over July in the videos, but I don’t think I see that in the photos.  The extra scale weight could be accounted for by muscle fullness, which would make the definition appear sharper.

Once I got the pictures, I think the lower body in the back was the only part that truly improved.  Or it could be the difference in the poses between bodybuilding and physique.  I’m going to just drop a bunch of pictures in here and let them speak for themselves.

Pre-Judging Pictures: Women’s Physique, Class B

 

 

Shots From Routine at Night Show

 

July 2017 Stage vs. October 2017 Stage

Another Big, Scary Adventure

This is me after I dropped off the paperwork requesting an early retirement from teaching.  It included a letter of resignation effective at the end of this school year.

Not retiring from working – quite the opposite.  Because of bodybuilding, because of the 2015-2017 lesson, I’m brave enough now to believe I can teach on my own terms.  I want to teach math in a way I know is effective and helps kids.

When I’ve told a few people I’m ‘retiring’, they say “Congratulations“, which I know is the appropriate response, but honestly, I feel like I’m losing something.   I love teaching math and I’m good at it.  It’s been my calling more so than my job.

I feel like I’m doing my best work now and I honestly thought I had a few more years left in my tank.  But lately, it’s been obvious that changes made in education have hurt kids.  It’s been bothering me too much that I’m part of it.

I stayed because I also know teachers can stave off some of that damage.

But something happened that crossed a line for me, personally.  It’s not necessary to get into it.  It’s sufficient to say that it was the “push” I needed to at least research my options.

If  stepping into a gym to ask for help was scary, stepping onto a stage was scary – this tops everything!  After 22 years as a government employee, I’m leaving early, so the retirement benefit will only half of my monthly income now.  Health insurance isn’t paid for retirees in my state anymore, either. I’ve analyzed and over-thunk the crap out of this since last spring when the last straw fell onto my back.

And then the 2017 competition season happened.   

I didn’t die. 

So I stopped thinking and acted.  I will make this work.  When I get worried, I flip my script and stay focused on the  exciting opportunity ahead that is pulling me out.

I’m going to be an entrepreneur!!! $$$$

I’ve been working with a business mentor to start my own business as an online math coach/tutor specializing in closing learning gaps in that keep kids from being successful in geometry.

If the negative stuff was the “push”, this is the “pull”  I’m excited!

There will also be something similar happening with fitness online, but I’m still working out exactly what my niche will be in that world.

If you’re reading this now, you will be one of the first to know about that when I’m ready.  My LMS peeps have been with me for years, so it’s important to me to tell you about it first, and if turns out to be something helpful, you will get first dibs.

The plan is to have both sides of this online business ready for a “soft-opening” in January 2018.  Assuming the school board approves my request to leave, and assuming nothing else happens to change my plans, my last day as a public school teacher will be July 31, 2018.  Whatever the next thing is going to be, it needs to be fully functional by August.

Wish me luck!!  And as always – thank you for your encouragement and support!

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2017 Prep Update: Reflections Before Moving Forward (Video Included)

“So how did you do?”

How do I explain how this was my favorite “last place” of all?  How does that make any sense when validation is supposed to be about a scorecard?  Four shows now and four last place finishes, but my truth now is…

IT. DOES. NOT. MATTER.

It’s been 11 days and when I think of my time on stage, I’m overwhelmed with JOY.   I felt a little like this after my first show in 2012 because that one was truly a celebration.  I didn’t feel much of anything except a little frustration after my 2013 show.  And, as many of you know, the 2015 show was a kick in the gut.  Every insecurity I had about participating in this sport was validated that day.  To come back from that, I spent two years doing intense introspection that led to some inspired changes in my teaching practice.  Had I not had that humiliating experience, I doubt I’d ever understand how a fixed mindset can poison everything we attempt to do.  That experience helped me understand how some of my students feel – hopeless to break through and change anything.  Lost track of the number of books I absorbed.  I even took an online class on mindset in mathematics and could relate everything I learned back to my personal experience as a new, 50-something, athlete.

So how did I do?

Wonderfully!  I did wonderfully.  Almost every goal I set for myself was achieved.  What I’m most proud of is how I improved with posing and how I choreographed my own routine, kept it private until stage – and it didn’t suck!  There is still much left to do.  That’s exciting because I’ve proven to myself that I CAN improve.  After that 2015 experience, I fought a hard battle against the “what’s the point” bullshit-on-a-stick I was handed.

I can’t imagine that winning something will ever feel better than this feels.  I could be wrong, but I don’t think so.  Don’t misunderstand – I’m not “making lemonade from lemons” here.  A couple weeks before the show, my mindset switched from thinking of this as a competition to thinking of it as a performance.  I met every performance goal I set for myself.  I worked hard on it and I saw it in the pictures and videos.  I didn’t lose my composure or crack under pressure.  It’s very possible that I will always be moved into the last position after the symmetry round because my symmetry sucks a little bit – so be it.  Judges do what judges are supposed to do.  But I really don’t care anymore.  I’m up there DOING BODYBUILDING!  So much joy in that!!  I will set my goals and I will give the people who paid to watch bodybuilders the best bodybuilding performance I can muster up on that day.

I understand that being an underdog and winning would make for a great story, but I don’t think that’s my part to play.  Because I put in the work and participate in this sport publicly, someone somewhere borrows courage from me (which I’ve borrowed from others) to deal with their own health issues.  I never set out to be a social media fitness person and I’ve actually become more of an introvert in real life since all of this attention has landed on me.  I go to the gym, I do my work.  I go to work, I do my work.  But every so often, I suit-up and step-up to a mark taped on a stage and do a bodybuilder performance.  I don’t know why it fills me with joy – it just does and I’m grateful!

I made this video to celebrate the experience.  It took a little time because I really don’t know what I’m doing with this sort of thing, but I am learning as I go along – as is true for most everything I am doing these days.  If you followed the events of the day on Facebook as Michelle and I were posting, you’ll recognize most of what’s in here.

Thank you!!!!!!!

<3

 

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2017 Prep Update: Day 275 of 275 – Show Time!

First off – I apologize, but I don’t have many show pictures yet.  Just ordered them.  I have the shots my coach took with his phone during pre-judging, so I’ll include those in this post.  Plus any other little things I grabbed with my phone.  I didn’t take many pictures myself.  I usually would, but I guess I was a little preoccupied looking for a quiet corner in a busy, small area backstage.

When I checked in on Friday afternoon and got my competitor number, I was happily surprised to see that it was…

I was born in 1962.  I like little things like that.

When I asked how many competitors were in the women’s bodybuilding division, the promoter told me that up until the week before, only one – me.  I didn’t think there would be many, but that was a surprise.  This is usually a big show.  People fly in from all over the world to do this show.  And it was just me?  She said that she worked on it and was able to convince four other women who were already doing figure to cross-over and do bodybuilding as a second division.  She was happy about that because if there were five, it would become a pro-card qualifier.  She was more excited about that than I was and that showed on my face.  I think that surprised her.   You see, at least three of the women crossing over were already pros in the figure division.   I’ve made improvements, but I know where I’m at on the continuum.  I am not at the point where I can stand in a line with figure pros and hang with them from the perspective of the judges table.  Oh well.  I was glad that more women were interested in competing in bodybuilding and grateful that there would be a line of athletes instead of just one.  Just one competitor in a category called “women’s open bodybuilding” at a show this size would be really depressing.

The next morning, we found out one dropped out, so the division was down to four, which meant it was no longer a pro-qualifier.  The three that were left were the figure pros.  So it really was going to me, an amateur, in a line with three pros.  Technically, they were amateurs in the bodybuilding division, but still farther down the road with training and development.  Having already earned pro cards means they have done better with judging panels at some point in the past, while I haven’t earned anything in a judged competition.  I reminded myself that it’s a logical progression for an athlete to change divisions as her physique develops and that they were probably excited to compete as bodybuilders because who wouldn’t be?  Bodybuilding is an amazing division with plenty of opportunity for an athlete to show the results of her efforts. And I was grateful.  I want them in that line.  I want that competition – it’s fuel for me to push.    I reminded myself that I have my own list of personal goals and my time will come.  I put on my headphones, read literally hundreds of encouraging comments posted on my Facebook page, practiced my posing, and stayed focused on what I could accomplish on that day…

  1. Stay calm, remember cues, and hit my poses.   I’ve been practicing every day for a couple of months, so I could lean on that.  I also made a playlist on my phone with songs I listened do during my practices so that I could trigger muscle-memory for posing.  (“Proud” by Heather Small was the main one.)
  2. Focus on enjoying the experience so that I can put 2015 behind me for good.
  3. Turn “stage” into my personal performance for the people who have been supporting me all this time.   I wanted to honor them by keeping it together and making them proud.  My friend Michelle from GarageGym107 flew across the country to be there to help me. (How amazingly generous is that?)  She was doing live posts on the LMS page so people could watch in real time.  I kept my focus on her when I was up there for that reason.

My 2017 General Goals

2017 Goal: Come in with better conditioning and be leaner.  Check

2017 Goal: Bring up quads and delts. Check

2017 Goal: Improve posing, look more relaxed, and don’t have a dizzy spell. Check 

2017 Goal: Earn a placing.  To me, that means to not be in last place.  I am not particularly interested in “beating” anyone – it’s not about that.  It’s just that “last place” is a given even if you don’t train, don’t prep, don’t practice…anyone who pays to play and get on stage can be placed last.  To move forward from there feels like a validation of work – but that’s not really what it is.  We are all compared to an aesthetic “standard” for a bodybuilder.  The closer a competitor’s physique is to that standard, the higher they are placed.  If I were going to be placed last, I wanted to make it harder for the judges to make that decision.   I wanted to get more than four poses in before it happened.  Nope.  That did not happen.  I was moved after the symmetry round just like before.  Can’t lie.  I’m annoyed by that because my symmetry round poses looked better in 2017 than they did in 2015, but there was no way to compete in symmetry against three figure pros.  Those symmetry poses are practically the bread-and-butter of the figure division.  I wasn’t surprised when I was asked to switch places.

Pre-Judging Photos

This is the actual judging round. Nothing from the night show is judged for amateur divisions.  (I’m the one with a half-shaved head who’s suit does not sparkle.)


After pre-judging, I knew the one goal I could not control – earn a placing – was out of reach on this day.  My placement of 4th was appropriate. I’m used to having goals that are just beyond me, I’m also used to last place, so I just let it go and focused on things that were in my control – courage to face fear,  improve presentation, and enjoy the experience.

Enjoyment

I was blessed to have had some enriching backstage experiences this time around.   Met a women’s bodybuilding pro and a figure pro that I’ve admired for a couple years.  Found out both were teachers!  How cool is that??  The first was a retired special ed elementary teacher and the other is a current US government teacher in a high school a little similar to my school.  The bodybuilding pro shared a little wisdom learned from her long bodybuilding career.  That was encouraging and inspiring.

These ladies are retired bodybuilders who were there helping competitors backstage.   This picture was taken after a fairly aggressive Bikini-Bite (body glue) session for my posing suit top.  What little I have left up top wasn’t cooperating.  At one point, one person was holding something in place while the other was applying the glue, and I flexed a pec as a reflex.  She screamed “OMG!  That was like feeling a baby move!!”  Holy crap that was funny!!!!

My Bikini-Bite Crew!

Last, but most certainly not least, was the time I was blessed to spend with this woman.

My bud, Michelle @GarageGym107

We’ve been online friends for years, but I was surprised when she said she was going to fly out to watch and support me.  Had Michelle not come out, I would have had WAY too much time with my own thoughts and it would have been much harder to stay grounded and focused.  Plus, she clued me in on the power of caramel M&Ms.  Holy cow they are yummy!!!!

Presentation

When I watched the videos Michelle took of the pre-judging and the night show routine, I saw basically what I practiced, which meant that my preparation paid off.  I can tell you that while I was on stage for pre-judging, I was shaking a bit, but it was not noticeable.  When I saw how my performance changed after something made an authentic smile pop up, I realized that was exactly what I needed to make happen as much as possible during the night show.  Not a stage smile, but a real one from my heart. I needed to stay focused on WHY I was doing this – why I changed my life and trained for this – I LOVE BODYBUILDING!!!  I needed to remember who I was on that stage for – my tribe – my husband, my coach, my friends, and the thousands of people I have never met but who graciously and generously offer encouragement and prayers whenever I feel afraid to do this thing.  (I did meet one person- thanks for coming out Heather!!!  That meant a lot to me.  It was not a free event and I’m sure you had plenty to do on a Saturday.)  My tribe gives me courage.  I remind myself often that this stage thing doesn’t take as much courage as it did to walk into the gym and ask for help.  Because I do this now, someone else will start and not stop.  I know this happens because they tell me.  It’s not my style to pump up my ego about something like this – this is how I’m paying it forward.  It’s my honor to keep showing up now, no matter what happens.  Plus, I promised to bring everyone along using Facebook Live, so there would be no edits.  That’s how I wanted it.  Real.  I’m grateful I can even do this thing.  I’m grateful for the people who step up to help me do it.  I had to keep that feeling of gratitude right up front in my mind so it would show on my face.  My face always reflects my heart and my fears.  I hope the good stuff eventually comes through when you watch those videos over on the Facebook page, because that’s where I wanted to keep my head at on that day.

Courage

Not going to rehash it, but if you’ve followed along, you know 2015 rocked me.  Getting back up on that stage and just doing it “better” – whatever that means – needed to happen.  I needed to feel my passion for this sport again.  I needed to feel it grow stronger than my fear.  I knew if my physical goals were met and my presentation rose up to present that physique, I would see a glimpse of the bodybuilder I’m hoping to become.  If I were afraid, I would appear timid and unsure.  Once I realized I could not compete against these athletes, I accepted what was coming, but was surprised to see that they were being coached back stage on how to do the posing.  It was then that I realized that they really didn’t think about crossing over until asked.  They only had a couple of days to learn poses and come up with a routine.  Based on some other things they told me that I won’t share here, they may not have considered competing as bodybuilder until the opportunity to earn another pro card became an option.  I can only guess as to how they felt when the 5th person dropped out and that was off the table.  (I still hope they liked it and will continue in the division.)  So at that point, I found a mental hook to hang onto to pull up my own courage to do this thing – this was MY division.  I trained for it.  I might be going down in flames in last place, but this is MY DIVISION.  I look like a bodybuilder.  I pose like a bodybuilder.  I trained my mind for this by watching videos of Ed Corney, Frank Zane, and all those female bodybuilders from the 80’s.  MY.  DIVISION.  So yeah – that’s why, during the pose down, I saw an opportunity to make a statement and I took it.   I moved to be in front of the woman who ended up taking the overall.  (She got the pro-figure overall, too, by the way.)  Yup.  I stepped up, turned around, and stretched my arms out and displayed my best feature – my back.  The whole time, two words were repeating my head…

“MY DIVISION”

During my routine, people in the audience cheered at the right spots.  I designed it to be an homage to “old school” routines where those big poses landed at the most dramatic points in the music.  Mr. Zane used to just hit those poses, hold them, and grin.  So I did the same thing to the best of my current ability.  Not nearly as epic, but I wanted to remind people of what this sport used to be.   No dancing.  No bouncing.  No floor rolling.  No hair and make up.  No crystals.   Old school bodybuilding.  That’s what some people still buy tickets to see.  That’s the direction I want to go.  That’s how I want to play.  Got some great feedback from someone I respect in this sport, Jeff Alberts,  about how he could see my improvements, and the effort and practice I put into the presentation this time around.

My coach, Alberto Nunez, and Jeff Alberts. Alberto and Jeff are two of the five coaches from 3DMuscleJourney.

At the end of this day, I was grateful and proud.  Not a boastful proud, but a humble sort of proud, if that makes sense.  I’m proud of what Alberto and I have accomplished.  I could not have done it without his planning, intuition, and guidance, but his coaching would not have been effective without my commitment, discipline, precision, and passion.  We are doing good work.

My husband’s support is “mission critical”.  Knowing he supports what I’m doing empowers me to improve.  He is an amazingly generous man, my best friend, and I love him dearly.

I am so grateful for my tribe from this blog and the Facebook page.  When I describe you to others in real-life, I tell them to imagine a few thousand “momma-bears” who will have your back when you need it, but will turn on someone when necessary.  That’s why I try to get to those trolls before anyone else sees them – not because they bother me, but I don’t want you all to turn on them using all your intellectual weapons!  That’s just not a fair fight!  And I LOVE that about you guys!!!  Thank you for the enCOURAGEment!!!!

When I get the pictures from the show photographer, I will share them.  I’ll put together a new before/after, too.

Also, there is another show coming up in October that I am planning to do.  I didn’t save up for two shows, so it’s possible that I won’t be able to pull the funds together, but I’m going to try and I’m going to prep for it regardless.  That means we are just inside of 12 weeks out now.  It’s an NPC show so I will be doing women’s physique.  The poses are similar, but I will need to practice to make the adjustments for the few poses that are different than traditional bodybuilding poses.  I’ve done two NPC shows before, so this is not new stuff for me.   The routine I have will work just fine.  Just need to keep practicing it and fix some bumpy spots.

And no, I won’t glam up for NPC.  I’m “old school” all the way.  Keeping the racing stripes in my hair, though.  🙂

Hair Coach: Nicole Page @CurlEnvy

 

 

 

 

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